As you go through your divorce, there are a few things you can do to help your child feel better about the situation. Being able to talk to your children and explain the situation, negotiating with your spouse, avoiding conflict and controlling your emotions can are all actions that could help.
Below, there are three ways to make your situation easier on your child. These simple tips will help you keep your child’s best interests at heart and assist you in guiding them as you move forward with your divorce.
1. Talk to your child openly
Some parents believe that their children understand that the divorce is between their parents and doesn’t involve them, but the reality is that many children internalize the divorce and believe that they caused it. After all, if they weren’t there, would their parents be under the same stress? Talk to your child openly and express that they are not to blame. Make sure they know that they are loved.
2. Remove disrespect from your actions
You might be angry or frustrated, but don’t be disrespectful. You can handle conflict without yelling, screaming or being rude. Reduce disrespectful encounters, and do your best not to disrespect the other parent when speaking with your child.
3. Take the high road when possible
In the end, your child will benefit from a stable custody schedule and the love of both their parents. Though you might want to fight for more time or argue for different arrangements, try not to nitpick too much. The goal should be to do what is in your child’s best interests, and that’s what you should fight for.
Our website has more on going through a divorce with a child and how to get through it. You can also learn more about your custody options.