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3 reasons to be reasonable during your divorce

On Behalf of | Mar 17, 2022 | Divorce |

Sometimes, when you feel hurt or frustrated by your spouse’s actions and the idea of a divorce, you may decide to stand your ground and refuse to negotiate. You might think that you want to go to court and do all you can to get everything possible out of your marriage, because you are offended and hurt by what’s happening.

It is reasonable to feel like you’re going to war with your divorce, but it’s a good idea to sit down and think about how you really want the next few months to go. There are many reasons to focus on negotiating and being reasonable during your divorce that you should keep in mind.

Why be reasonable and negotiate with your spouse during divorce?

There are three main reasons to be willing to negotiate during divorce. These include:

  1. Saving money
  2. Avoiding conflict
  3. Being able to work together in the future

An uncontested divorce in which you and your spouse can work through your negotiations together is less likely to cost a substantial sum of money than a litigated case. You’ll spend less time in court and be able to avoid some of the more serious conflicts that tend to be seen with contested divorces.

If you’re willing to mediate or try alternative dispute resolution options, then you may be able to resolve your issues without going to court at all.

On top of this, you have to think about your circumstances. Do you have to work with your spouse in the future in business? Do you have children together? If you have to see each other in the future and are going to have to work together in one way or another, then you need to consider negotiating and finding a way to be on good terms.

Of course, not every situation is best resolved with negotiations, and there will be cases where litigating makes more sense. However, if you and your spouse can both be reasonable, you may get a better outcome if you’re able to negotiate the terms of your divorce outside of court.

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