If you’re going through a divorce and have children or significant property to consider, then you may be extremely stressed. You could feel exhausted or frustrated by the entire situation. That’s reasonable, and it is understandable that you feel that way.
While you may feel like you want to fight tooth and nail for the outcomes you’d like, it’s important for you to realize that a conflicted divorce is likely to last longer, cost more and cause more of a negative impact on your life and your children’s lives than if you agree to work more collaboratively.
That’s why collaborating and being reasonable is the most appropriate way to approach your divorce.
Approach your divorce with a business mindset
To start with, it’s a good idea to sit down and clear your mind of thoughts of revenge or anger against your spouse. Even if they have wronged you, those feelings are more likely to make this process harder.
Instead, try to approach your divorce with the goal of collaborating. Finding solutions that work for both of you, working on custody scenarios that are good for your children and encouraging positivity during conversations is more likely to work in your favor than trying to fight through a conflicted divorce.
A good business mindset during your divorce will help you see offers and arrangements for what they are. You need to think about how to decisions you make will impact your finances in the future, not just do what you feel is right in the moment. Similarly, if you’re trying to come up with custody arrangements, you want to do what is right for your children, not just feels right for you.
Collaborative divorces often cost less, take less time and have better outcomes
When you and your spouse can collaborate during your divorce, the likelihood is that you’ll be able to divorce sooner, will spend less time in court and will see an outcome that you are both satisfied with. If you’re on good terms with each other or can set aside negative feelings, this could be the solution that helps you move forward with your life more quickly.