You are sick and tired of arguing over every little thing with your spouse. In fact, you have come to the conclusion that you want to get a divorce. All you need to do is tell them the marriage is over.
So, when should you tell them you plan on filing for divorce? Even if your spouse is equally as unhappy as you are, that doesn’t necessarily mean that they are ready to throw in the towel on the marriage completely.
Choose your moment carefully
One thing that you surely don’t want to do is tell them in front of the children or in a public space. You might think that telling your spouse in a restaurant will keep them from breaking down or making a scene. But that is just unkind and possibly even cruel.
You should pick a time when it is just the two of you in the privacy of your home. Don’t announce it when they are about to leave for work or a social engagement or anywhere they might need to drive from while still upset over the news. That could even cause them to be injured — or injure someone else — in a car wreck.
Avoid a holiday or other memorable time
You don’t want your soon-to-be ex-spouse to have a permanent negative association with a certain holiday, vacation spot or another typically pleasant event. That’s not fair.
Instead, ask them to sit with you and discuss something that has been on your mind for some time. This can set a calm tone while also letting them know that this is a matter to which you have given great thought.
Seek legal guidance before addressing the topic
It’s also prudent to discuss your plans with a family law attorney before announcing your intention to file for divorce to your spouse. Our firm can provide guidance and advice and help you throughout the process. Please continue reviewing our site to learn more about your options.