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How to prepare when the court will rule on child custody terms

You love your children more than anything in the world. When a relationship comes to an end, you have to learn how to effectively co-parent moving forward. As you face divorce,  your main concern is the continued well-being of your children.

Many parents have the ability to work together on their own to come to custody terms that only need court approval. Unfortunately, this does not happen in every case. Though you may have attempted to discuss the issue of custody with your soon-to-be ex, you may have quickly realized that too much conflict existed between the two of you. As a result, your custody case must go through litigation.

Attending court hearings

When it comes to a court making the final custody decisions, you might be unsure what to expect. The idea may seem frightening to you, and you may worry that this process will negatively impact your kids. Of course, you want to reach the best arrangement possible so that your children's best interests are met, so you will do what you need in order to prepare.

The following tips may help you feel more at ease when it comes time to attend your first custody hearing:

  • Dress appropriately: While your main concern remains on the custody terms that need reaching, you may want to also give some attention to yourself. The judge will notice the way in which you dress and how you act while in court, which could have a considerable impact on your case.
  • Have realistic expectations: If you walk into the courtroom without having done any research into what a custody hearing entails, you may put yourself at a considerable disadvantage. Not only will you not know what to expect, you may put yourself more on edge, which could cause you to seem flustered and unable to properly present your case.
  • Understand the law: You may want to gain a better understanding of how North Dakota state laws could impact your particular case.

Litigation may have been the last process you wanted to go through to reach a child custody agreement, but sometimes, it is unavoidable. Now, you can only do your best to ensure that you work to reach the right terms for your children. Because preparing for custody hearings can seem overwhelming, you may want to consider your options for obtaining legal assistance.

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Commandments of Family Law

  1. The only truth your children need to know is that you both love them unconditionally, and that this isn't their fault.
  2. Take the high road — everyone wins when you do what's best for your kids.
  3. Negotiate but don't capitulate — if you are being pushed toward something detrimental for your children, stand your ground.
  4. You can only control yourself and how you respond. Don't engage.
  5. Do set up rules and responsibilities. Kids feel better when routine is continued.
  6. You are still their parent — don't be afraid to be one.
  7. Disneyland is in California, not in your home. Don't set up unreasonable expectations.
  8. It is not their job to take care of you. Repeat that to them. Often.
  9. Yelling is for sports — not court. Good lawyers strongly advocate without being disrespectful to opposing parties.
  10. Fair is a place you go to get cheese curds. Aside from that, nothing in life is fair.

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