Melinda Weerts PLLC - Family Law
To talk to an experienced family law attorney about your case,
please call our Fargo office at 701-297-2234
Helping You And Your Family Find
A More Positive Future

Are you staying in your unhappy marriage because of the kids?

| Nov 27, 2017 | Blog |

Some days, you think you can make it work, but other days, you just want it over with. This is common for many who are considering ending their marriages, especially if they have children. Like many going through this struggle, you are likely wrestling with feelings of failure and concern about your future. You may also have worries about how a divorce will affect your children.

It may sound cliche to stay married for the sake of the kids, but it’s a debate many North Dakota parents have. Perhaps you were a child of divorce or you know people who struggled throughout their adulthoods because of the circumstances surrounding their parents’ breakups. You certainly don’t want your own children to go through any more trauma than they already have, but how do you know if staying in your marriage is doing more harm than good?

A rough patch or a perfect storm?

Some spouses who consider divorce are simply going through a difficult time. This may be due to the stresses of work or finances, an illness, or some personal setback. It may even be the result of infidelity or other misbehavior. However, if you feel that, with a little hard work, you and your spouse could reconcile and renew your marriage, perhaps divorce is not the answer. Putting your children through such an ordeal may not be worth it.

On the other hand, there may be definite reasons to end the marriage, even if it causes unhappiness for your children, for example:

  • Your spouse is physically, mentally or verbally abusive to you or to your children.
  • You have already tried counselling, and you and your spouse still fight constantly.
  • You live with anxiety and stress when you are with your spouse, but both of you are much happier when you are apart.

If you take an honest look at your family’s situation, you may already know the answer to your question. Are your children okay? Do they seem content and unaware of the struggles you and your spouse are having, or are they already miserable, sensing the dissension between their parents and witnessing acts of hostility between you?

You may find that counseling helps you reach a decision. However, it may not hurt to get the advice of a legal professional so you will know what to expect and how to prepare your children if you decide the marriage is over.

Categories

Archives