Divorce is rarely an emotionless process. For whatever reason, you and your spouse have decided that your marriage is no longer working and should end. Just because it is the right thing, however, does not mean it is easy -- something some Fargo residents may know firsthand. Whether you are sad, angry, frustrated or a combination of those feelings, it is important not to let your emotions cloud your judgement during your divorce.
First and foremost, you must work with an attorney to get a clear understanding of the implications of your decisions during divorce. Know what will happen if you agree to certain things or if you choose to go to court. Make sure to consider all of your options before finalizing any decisions. When your divorce is final, there is usually no going back.
Next, remember that even though your friends and family love you, they probably don't know much about the intricacies of divorce. Despite the fact that you may value their opinions, the only person you should be taking advice from is your legal team. They know the laws inside and out and can help make sure your best interests are protected.
Finally, make sure you know what you need and that you go after it. While it is important to pick your battles wisely in divorce, you should not agree to things that will leave you broke at the end. Look at your income and expenses and determine what you will need out of the divorce to provide for yourself and your children if you have any. This can help you determine how much to ask for in alimony or child support. On the flip side, only agree to payments that are fair and that you will be able to afford.
Unraveling the strings of a marriage is not always an easy task. Although emotions are always involved in divorce, it is important to set them aside while you work out a settlement. Making level-headed decisions will go along way toward ensuring a successful divorce that is fair and protects your interests.
Source: Huffington Post, "7 Tips to Avoiding a Disastrous Divorce," Daniel Clement, Aug. 20, 2013