Are There Ways To Make Divorce Easier?

Divorce is one of the worst things that can happen to a person. Whether you have been planning to end your marriage for a while or have recently been served papers by your spouse, you are about to undergo major changes. These changes can be stressful and impact many different parts of your life. You may dread the process, but, there are things that you can do that can make this entire experience much more positive for you and your children.

At Melinda Weerts Law, PLLC, our attorneys take a very proactive approach to each divorce. We stress how important it is for you and your spouse to have a "friendly divorce," because we believe that handling your divorce in this manner will yield many benefits for you and your family.

Are You Tired Of Being Angry All The Time?

We have seen many clients who have come to us after losing all hope. They are just done. With everything. They want to get this over with as soon as possible because they are frustrated. They are out of ideas. They just want to move past this because of the emotional toll it is taking.

There really is no difference in outcomes between giving up and fighting over everything. In both situations, you're going to end up in a terrible place once the divorce is over. By taking a few moments to talk to our lawyers about your situation, we can help you see through the emotions and really focus on the issues. We can identify the real problems, and work with you to find workable solutions. We can take the stress out of your case, and help you focus on what is important to you.

Do You Have Kids With Your Ex?

If you and your spouse had children together, a divorce does not end your relationship. You and the other parent are connected not just until your youngest child turns 18, but for the rest of your lives. Beyond graduation, there are awards, weddings, births, Baptisms, and events in the lives of your grandchildren or even great-grandchildren. If you both want to participate without making it miserable for everyone else, you will need to learn to be civil to someone who may have hurt or humiliated you. The sooner you can move forward and heal, the sooner you will learn to communicate more effectively with your ex.

But there is another reason why communication is important. If you can work together to come up with a comprehensive child custody and parenting time plan, you can avoid having the matter handled by the courts. Neither of you will be completely happy with it because agreement requires compromise, but both of you will have chosen what you could compromise and what you could not.

Litigation is unpredictable. Even if you believe you have an absolutely perfect case, the judge can still issue a ruling that is completely different from what you expect. If you and your spouse can work together to find an agreement, it will stand a much better chance of lasting and can set the momentum for cooperation and civility going forward.

Litigation Is The Last Resort, Not The First Option

Litigation is a necessary evil to be used only after exhausting all other options and only when circumstances absolutely require it. Our lawyers work hard to find solutions before the courtroom becomes necessary. We feel that litigation is something that usually makes a situation worse for everyone, especially your children. We are not the law firm that is going to fight over everything — that is rarely in your best interests. We carefully evaluate all options to ensure that the choices you make are the right methods to obtain your results and goals.

To Learn More About Us

To schedule a free consultation with our firm, please call our Fargo office at 701-297-2234 or send us an email. We are licensed in both Minnesota and North Dakota, and represent clients in family matters throughout the Fargo-Moorhead area.